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  1. Poppy-summer

    Poppy-summer Active Member

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    Hey my lovely peeps and peepettes,

    Went to an event this weekend with a lot of people and ended up feeling completely drained and like I couldn't wait to just get out and go home. Didn't socialize much, couldn't join in group conversations and generally just wanted to get away from everyone. It was a hot day but even so ....

    Science puts this down to poor social skills and how much exposure you have had to people the previous months. It also says the more you get used to socializing at events and being around lots of people - the more easier and less draining it becomes.

    I think it's more down to being very sensitive and psychic. It's very annoying. How can you stop this from happening in the future. Knowing how to prevent energy drain would be invaluable for the rest of your life!
     
  2. Crowan

    Crowan Well-Known Member

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    I'd say it's down to lack of boundaries.
     
  3. Cascara

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    Lack of personal boundaries but they need to be enforced, not physically, but mentally or psychically by visualisation, protection, grounding and shielding etc. You need to learn how to do that :)
     
  4. Poppy-summer

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    Yes - There's definitely a theme of lack of boundaries in my life which I have noticed a lot. I've been taught protection, shielding and visualization techniques but I can't be doing it properly. Wow, when I've fully mastered it, it will probably change my life. HAHAHA
     
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    Then won't life be wonderful! :)
     
  6. sharon.heath

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    There's a concern of mine regarding social skills. Is it poor social skills when one is an introvert? I've been told as a kid I don't have social skills because I don't talk to people often. I also find it energy-draining. :eek:
     
  7. Crowan

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    Absolutely not. There are many introverts with great social skills. There are many introverts with poor social skills. The two are not related.
     
  8. gulfcoastms

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    If you are sensitive, psychic and and or empathic? This may always be an issue. It's just more work being around people. You feel them.

    I am sort of a hermit.
     
  9. Crowan

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    Thinking about it, I realise that my previous answer could have been worded better. While social skills are not related to being introvert or extrovert, the feeling drained around a lot of people may be. Basically, introverts recharge their batteries by being alone and extroverts do it by being with people.
    Introverts and extroverts do the same things for different reasons. There’s use in the labels if they help you to understand yourself but, in the end, they are just labels. Human beings are more complex than this.

    This will have an effect. But you could be all these and not feel drained if your boundaries are strong.
     
  10. gulfcoastms

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    That was an amazing response. So easy to understand and so kind.

    Addition:
    This issue of boundaries is an issue for me. To feel others is a gift but is also a drain and sometimes feels like an assault or an invasion, if the other person or people are in an emotional state. Or I guess ill whatever is your sensitivity.

    "Weak boundaries" feels like a problem if in psychological terms. Weak boundaries feels like a gift in the psychic or healing world because you can feel and experience others and then maybe know how to help them. Then there is in between.

    So am I mentally weak or psychicly gifted? And the place in between? ( I'm sorry but a recurring thought with me...am I gifted or nuts or both, and is the gift pushing me over the edge.)

    So the in between would be to be able... to be open and receptive and closed and shielded at will. That's a lot to learn if it's even possible.
     
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  11. Crowan

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    As I said before, I ‘don’t do’ empathy. And I suspect that the majority of people who say they do are actually being sympathetic. (Empathy being actually feeling what another is feeling, sympathy being feeling what you would feel in that situation.) For example, a good friend’s 27 year old son was hit by a car and killed earlier this year. I can’t feel what she’s feeling. But I can hold a space in my heart and mind for her to feel what she needs to feel.

    I do know that those people I know who claim to be empathic always read me wrongly.
    (Please understand, I am in no way questioning your empathy. Simply saying I don’t do it.)

    So how do I deal with those who come to me for help? Well, I may not be empathic, but my Spirit Teachers are. And they are the ones who are counselling or healing (except in “Core Shamanic Counselling”, where it is the client’s Spirit Teachers who are doing the work), not me. This allows me to keep my boundaries strong (but flexible and ‘with a gate in the wall’), ensuring that I am not drained of energy, nor am I going to take an intrusion into myself or lose soul or power.

    I am aware of many (non-shamanic) healers who have completely worn themselves out or who have developed cancers (or other things. Mainly cancers). Shamans tend to live longer.
     
  12. Poppy-summer

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    Thanks for the replies - what an interesting discussion. I would still like to build up my own boundaries as it's easy for people to say 'imagine a protective bubble' and all this but how do you know if you have done it right and what if it doesn't work? Is the idea that it is all just down to our imaginations?? Maybe it is just practice, practice & more practice!
     
  13. InannaMonroe

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    Energy Draining Should Be Taken More Seriously!

    Hiya,
    I've just joined this Forum which looks really interesting and am so glad that you've posted about this issue.

    I'm a psychic empath and coach and speak to a lot of people everyday about varying topics, but have noticed that more and more people are feeling drained these days.

    I have to explain why this is to them and am going to write about it on my site hopefully soon too. It is a real problem, even for me. I notice that if I'm working with people who have started to develop their abilities but who don't ground or close down properly they then go around draining others.

    Some people are so strong in their 'draining' abilities that they are like hoovers, sucking in energy everywhere they go.

    It can so easily be avoided.

    Bright Blessings.

    Inanna xxx
     
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  14. gulfcoastms

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    We have no control over others. They are spilling their emotions or they are reaching out for energy in others for strength.

    I'm sure that I spill. I have been told that you know it when I walk into a room. No matter how many people are there they know when I arrive. I'm not sure what this is about but I have had a problem with emotional vampires wanting to be in my life. I divorce them as soon as I realize it. And sometimes I am very slow to act because while I am drained, I enjoy the ride.

    Grounding and encapsulating is one way to approach it. Being a hermit is kind of what I do because I want to live open. I want to feel it all. But I am learning to snap closed and detach when someone is dirty and I don't want to be soiled.

    Now that really sounds judgemental, but I have the right to shut out what I don't want. I didn't use that option in the past. I just stood there and sucked up the experience like it was a carnival ride.

    It didn't occur to me that I became soiled. Meaning for a little while I became part of them or the part they needed.

    I am new to accepting my powers. And some days it all seems to be a fantasy. Entering into a new world where I can (without effort) go somewhere and do something; and draw a picture of that place that I have never been is...twilight Zone.

    To have powers in my world of powerlessness seems to be the dream of a lifetime or the psychotic imaginings of a dreamer. I am still one foot in and one foot out. Sure of everything alternating with not being sure of anything.
     
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  15. Crowan

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    It's of more use to get to a stage where you are full of your own power. Then you don't really have to think about it too much.

    Okay, in this world we can't always stay full of ourselves. But once you have been whole, it feels so good, so right, that you feel it as soon as you lose a little power and can deal with it at once. Nearly thirty years now, and counting. Yes, I have wobbles. But I either deal with it or I get help (depending on how serious it is) and it's never a serious problem now.

    As InannaMonroe says, grounding is an effective first step, which is not difficult. Anyone teaching any type of spiritual work (particularly healing) should teach grounding pretty early on, and should spend some time on boundaries.

    I don't use protective bubbles.
     
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  16. gulfcoastms

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    I really believe what you are saying. If you are filled with the light; there is no lack in you for something else to enter and you can give a little bit away here and there.

    Although I have found conscious giving away leaves me still full but resisting or unconscious giving or being drained leaves me (ha, needing to be alone to recharge :) )

    I was thinking about what I wrote above; I almost sound like a psychic voyeur. :037:
     
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  17. Crowan

    Crowan Well-Known Member

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    I'm not filled with 'the light'. I'm filled with me.
     
  18. gulfcoastms

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    Hmmmmmm...I actually like it.
     
  19. Paul Crick

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    That is the way that I work as well, I do not feel the need for any boundaries, I am always happy to be wide open and complete within the fullness of self. :)
     
  20. Poppy-summer

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    Hiya
    Can you elaborate on this. Thank you.
     

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